How Beliefs Affect Friendships
In this article, I am going to discuss How Beliefs Affect Friendships. Whether you are aware of it or not, your opinions and judgments of others, and your beliefs about the world around you, massively affect other people’s behaviour. Your way of thinking locks those around you into a straight-jacket from which (if they are unaware of what’s going on) they’re unable to step out of. Even if their intentions or actions aren’t as you deem them to be, you will perceive their behaviour as a match for the beliefs that you hold of them.
Our Thoughts Impact Others
Dr Masaru Emoto was a Japanese scientist who demonstrated the idea that our thoughts and intentions impact the physical realm. He studied the scientific evidence of how the molecular structure in water transforms when it is exposed to human words, thoughts, sounds, and intentions. It took him 20 years to document it all in his book titled The Hidden Messages in Water. In it, he explains how water that is exposed to loving, benevolent, and compassionate human intention and perception will result in perfectly symmetrical crystalline molecular formations. Water that is exposed to fearful and malevolent human intentions results in ugly, demonic-looking molecular formations. He did this through Magnetic Resonance Analysis technology and high-speed photographs.
Held Back
What people think of you does have an energetic effect on you. Other people’s beliefs, perceptions, and knowledge of you may hold you back in life. This is particularly true when you are trying to work with other people or trying to deal with people who have outdated ideas about you. Their fixed ideas of who you are will cement you into a prison of their making.
For example, if they remember you when you were younger and you weren’t as confident as what you are now, they will treat you in accordance with their memories of who you are. Their beliefs about you, humanity, and the goings-on in the world lock you into a narrow framework in which sooner or later you behave in a way that ‘confirms’ their beliefs. It’s like being stuck in a muddy bog.
Then again, sometimes even if you don’t act in the manner that they expect you to, they will still perceive that you have behaved that way anyway. They SEE what they want or need to see in you. If they were more successful than you when they knew you prior, they may possibly still look down on you like they did before. Especially if they don’t know what you’ve achieved in your life since they last knew you.
Vote With Your Feet
You cannot control how others see you. However, you can control how long you hang around people who see you as anyone other than who you are. They may not be able to see who you are working towards becoming or what you are doing for them and others. Often that is why when you reconnect with old friends from times long gone, they continue to relate to who you were in the past. They don’t see you as who you may have grown to become.
I read an interesting comment just recently. It said, “People who relate to who you once were often fail to see or acknowledge what God can do.” This is very true, but they also fail to acknowledge that you have free will and can learn to make better choices. You are not a prisoner of anything, be it a belief or a behaviour.
If you’ve been working on improving your character and self-control, they won’t see that in you. On the other hand, if you’ve allowed yourself to degrade towards evil, they won’t see that in you either. Fortunately for the people around you though, if this is the case then eventually you’ll betray yourself by your own actions. However, let’s not focus on those who have fallen into degradation. Let’s focus on those who have improved in their development.
Off-the-Rails
Now let’s just say that you were a rebel as a teen and you went a bit wild – perhaps you went off-the-rails somewhat. What if life took you away from the friends of your youth and you grew and changed and developed very differently from who they remember you to be? What would happen if you bumped into someone from that era of your life now? How would they treat you?
Leave The Past In The Past
The answer is that often they will still see you as they remember you to be. They’ll have a fixed idea of who you are, and they will treat you accordingly. Their beliefs may be so very strong that you will find yourself reacting to things in ways that you haven’t done for many years. Why? Because their opinions of you drag that particular response out of you. If their opinion of you is strong enough, you will find yourself feeling suppressed around them. That is why it’s often best not to revisit people from the past. If you leave the people of the past in the past, they cannot hold you back from being who you are today. Or, for that matter, from becoming an even better version of yourself in the future.
Other Examples
Then there’s another type of person who can hold you back. He or she is someone who didn’t know you when you were younger. This person has had multiple experiences of trauma and abuse in their own life. As such, their perception of the world is that nobody can be trusted. They often believe that nothing ever goes right for them and that no matter what, every new situation or friend in their life is going to either betray them, hurt them, or leave them. When this is the case and their beliefs exist at a deep, subconscious level, they will act in accordance with those beliefs. They will end up creating the very situation that they most fear.
Something Always Goes Wrong
I recently attempted to create a friendship with a man who on the surface seemed very nice. During our conversations, he would strongly emphasise that he wanted to buy a piece of land and go live far away from people and not have anything to do with anyone ever again. He often repeated this desire whenever he talked with me. As I listened to the things that he said, I kinda got a bit spooked by it all. He talked of how every time he attempts to start a friendship with someone, something always goes wrong. The more that he repeated this statement, the more that I felt conflicted within myself about trying to be his friend.
Actions Spoke Louder Than Words
On a purely interactive level, it felt very difficult to get him to come out of his shell. He would take quite some time to reply if I rang and left a message or sent a text. Yet there was such a magnetic pull towards being his friend that I seemed to have no control over the drive to talk to him. I felt compelled to chat with him whenever I saw him at the community dinner that we both attended. This compulsion was so strong that I began to wonder whether he had a demon with him who was drawing me towards him, dragging upon my energy. As he revealed more and more about himself, I tended to think that this was indeed likely the cause.
Wanted No Help
Upon hearing about his life I offered him my point of view on certain things and I also asked him to check out some of my writings. I hoped that these would help him seeing as how he had been abused for more than three years by two male paedophiles when he was young. He very calmly and politely declined to read my writings or to watch any videos that I thought might help him. He said that it wasn’t his thing, that he had done an anger management course last year, and that he didn’t need any further help with that.
Controlled by Emotions
Now, I know from firsthand experience that you cannot “manage” anger that sits layer upon layer, deep within your psyche. Anger that sits at that level must be released. It cannot be “managed”. That amount of deep anger ends up controlling you. Now granted, this man has every right to feel angry at what has happened to him in his life, I don’t disagree at all with that. However, the amount of anger that he has simmering beneath the surface will explode into a rage given the right set of circumstances if it is not addressed properly. It has to be released, not managed.
No Longer Cared
I felt sorry for him. He was uninterested in looking at anything that I showed him or shared with him. He rebuffed any attempt that I made to help him. Also, he didn’t seem to want to know about the things in my life that I had achieved or that I am creating. It was almost like he no longer cared about people. Because of that, I felt powerless to help him and I felt like an outsider.
Being Polite
There were things that went well between us. He did respond to me if I initiated the conversation. If I initiated it, he would talk a little about himself, but he preferred generalities. He didn’t really want to open up further about himself. He was always very polite and yet he constantly shut me out. The thing about politeness is that it isn’t good when the person being polite is as cold as ice. Cold politeness is a veneer to mask something deeper that lays in wait to abuse anyone who’s in the way when a situation crops up. Politeness is good when it is used sincerely and when it is said with warmth. However, it is very bad when it is used to cover up hostility, hatred, or disdain.
Irresistible Compulsion
Anyway, it felt more and more difficult to get a friendship going. The poor guy had been seriously damaged by the things that he’d been through in life, and with every other thing that he told me, I felt that it was too difficult to help him. He had decided to just shut himself away from the world and he didn’t think that he needed help. This is a prime example of How Beliefs Affect Friendships.
I wondered why I had an irresistible compulsion to talk to him. I didn’t like not being in control of that, so finally, I decided to end the friendship.
Cutting Ties
Of course, there was no easy way to do that than to simply cut him off. I prayed with a female friend of mine and asked for a sign to show me if my decision was right. We also asked for help for me to exit the friendship. The sign that I asked for came along within a week.
I was talking to my friend while we sat waiting for dinner the next Friday evening, and he was playing some kind of game on his mobile phone and not paying any attention to what I was saying. He had his elbows on his knees, his phone in his hands, and his body was turned slightly away from me. I told him that I was annoyed at him not listening to me and I got up and walked away. I then felt the energetic cord that connected us break and felt free of the magnetic attraction to him. Relieved at the disconnection, I was very glad.
Beyond My Help
Later I realised that he had felt hurt by what I had done. What choice did I have? None, really. He needs professional help. He is beyond what I can do to help him. Had I hung around he would eventually have abused me in one way or another. People who have been abused and who haven’t done the work to heal themselves almost always go on to become abusers themselves. Or, they become people who self-harm. Many of these self-harm types will often end up suiciding.
Not Every Friendship is Good for You
My point in telling you this is that not all friendships are healthy. We must test the waters a little to find out whether the person with whom we are attempting to create a friendship is safe to have as a friend. We must witness whether they’re going to contribute as much to the friendship energy-wise as what we ourselves will. It takes time to discover that. We also need to learn about how the other person views the world. Their opinion of the world and the people in it will tell us a lot about how they will treat us. When we see a red flag being waved in our face, it is up to us to heed the warning.
Sinister Attraction
If you commence a friendship where you feel compelled by some indescribable force to speak with someone, then unless it is a healthy, mutual attraction it’s probably their demons sucking you towards them in order to feed off your energy. Demons (dark-matter low-frequency beings) cannot access the Light of God. Therefore, they need to feed off the fear and anger of humans.
People who are possessed have often been named by the psychiatric profession as being “narcissists”. Mental health doctors cannot prescribe any medication for spiritual possession, so they refuse to acknowledge that this may be the cause of a person’s issues and character defects. I can assure you that it’s not a mental health issue. Angry, hateful humans incubate and produce demons within themselves. Those demons then go on to suck on the energy of their host, along with anyone who their host is involved with.
Just Leave
If you find yourself in a similar situation to mine, you would be wise to walk away from these types of people. They are usually so damaged, unhealed (and so infested with darkness), that sooner or later they will hurt you or steal from you either by draining your energy and time, or by stealing your money or possessions. Or, your self-worth. Unfortunately, it might not only be your emotions that get hurt. It may be your physical body that gets hurt, or your bank account that gets depleted, or your life that you lose.
Be Picky
In order to practice self-love, we must have enough respect for ourselves to walk away from those people whom we can’t help. It is not our job to fix people who are unwell. Sure, love them from a distance but don’t get too involved. Encourage them, be good to them, but it’s up to them to go and get professional help. They must look squarely at themselves and change. For that to happen, though, they have to want to change. If they don’t want to do it, nothing you do can help them. Save your energy for someone who can return some of their own to you. Then it is a healthy exchange.
Thanks for reading,
Psychic Madeline Rose
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