How to Achieve Emotional Maturity
Eliminate Magical Thinking
There are seven steps that guide you on How to Achieve Emotional Maturity, beginning with eliminating magical thinking. Magical thinking is believing that something will happen without any real effort on your part. This is normal thinking in children, but self-defeating in adults. People often can get stuck in magical thinking if a significant event happened to reinforce it in childhood.
For a dramatic but not uncommon example, consider the child whose parent has a heart attack. If that child had been angry with the parent that day and thought angry thoughts about them, they would probably magically think that they themselves had caused the heart attack. That child as an adult may find it extremely difficult to confront others, especially others who are perceived as frail.
Learn to Tolerate Your Anxiety
Suppressing your anxiety causes it to continue – “what you resist, persists”. Then you start fearing the anxiety, a state referred to as anticipatory anxiety. It’s sort of like working out with weights – when it is heavy and your arm gets tired, youíre natural impulse is to put down the weight, but you know to strengthen your muscles, you continue.
It’s the same with anxiety. Your tendency is to avoid it and seek immediate relief. But to become stronger emotionally, take the time to look at your anxiety, learn about it, and work with it.
Learn to Recognise and Appropriately Express Your Anger
People who do not express their anger are usually afraid of what will happen if they do. They have distorted fantasies – fearing the floodgates and being out of control. They may have lacked family role models of appropriate anger expression. Discharging of anger by screaming or hitting pillows used to be recommended, even by therapists.
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Thanks for reading,
Psychic Madeline Rose
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