I have come to the conclusion that one of my girlfriends is a total Energy Vampire. She has fallen into depression, but it’s totally her own fault – she talked herself into it. Months ago I gave her the tools to avoid ending up where she now finds herself. Not only did she not act on the good advice that I gave her, but she tells me that I don’t have the same problems or responsibilities that she does and that I have no idea what she’s going through.
She’s right. I don’t have the same problems that she’s going through because I am not an Energy Vampire who pulls those problems to me. When I was young and immature I was, but not anymore. I’ve done heaps of work on myself to bring myself into balance. Balance means that problems are rare in my life now. Plus, I don’t have the same mindset of playing the victim as her, so I don’t attract very many negative experiences into my life anymore.
A Special Kind of Possession
When it comes to responsibilities, I have as many of those as anyone else around me. They are just not the same as hers. Telling me that I have hardly any responsibilities is just her way of trying to make me feel guilty for having a go at her about her constant whining and complaining and wasting my time. Guilt-tripping someone is very typical behaviour of Energy Vampires.
This woman suffers from a bad case of wanting to be special. She makes out that she’s special because she’s depressed. I had to cleanse my aura of her slimy negativity the last time I got off the phone from speaking with her, she was so pious in her stance of being right. It was an “I’m better than you” stance that reeked of demonic infestation. I felt dirty. That was the demons in her spiting their slime all over me.
I’m going to describe three different types of energy vampires, all three of which my friend exhibits traits of. There are other types, but these are the three that she displays. Here they are:
The Victim or Martyr
These people believe that they are at the mercy of what is going on in the world and that their suffering is because of other people. Instead of taking responsibility for themselves, Victim/Martyr types continually blame, manipulate, and emotionally blackmail others.
My friend (now to be ex-friend) is very good at this. She claims that she’s been strong for her daughter who has leukemia but I could see what was coming months ago. Unfortunately she never listened to my advice when I gave her the tools to deal with her downward spiralling mood. Instead, she listened to the recording once and then set it aside and didn’t listen to it again. Its magic only works if you listen to it over and over for a few months.
Then she lectured me about how difficult her life is and complained about all of her responsibilities, but never once did she accept that she’s where she’s at because of herself.
You can’t help someone like that. It’s not possible.
The Narcissistic Vampire
A Narcissist Vampire has no capacity to show genuine interest in or have compassion for other people. Narcissistic Vampires put themselves first and you second. They aren’t really interested in you.
I have often said to my friend that she dominates the conversation and talks only of herself. When I give my input or talk about my own life, it doesn’t take very long for her to twist the conversation around so that she can talk about herself again. She rarely asks me about what’s going on for me. Instead, she wants to steal the limelight and be the total centre of attention all the time. Oh, but don’t try to pull her up on it! No, you’re not allowed to do that!
She’s just totally self-absorbed.
The Melodramatic Vampire
Melodramatic Vampires often have empty lives with no purpose. Thus they try to fill their emptiness with dramas and chaos just to give them something to do. They often create drama in their romantic lives which gives them a reason to feel special and victimised. It gives them an exaggerated sense of self-importance.
Twice this woman got involved with guys whom she says are narcissists. Within a three month period she had flings with two guys, one after the other. They both ditched her. She slept with them the first time they met her – a big no-no if you want to create a proper relationship. When I pulled her up about it she said she wanted to enjoy herself. I could see what was going to happen in both situations and I told her what I saw. She didn’t bother to listen…. she knows best, of course.
Then she wastes my time by phoning me whinging and whining about how these guys are giving her the slip. Of course they are! Of course they are going to avoid her. Her co-dependent ways are too intense for them to cope with. She says that she just wants something casual, but that’s never how she acts once she is in the company of a man. With women like this around, it really is no wonder why men are so evasive of us.
A man likes to do the chasing. He likes to chase until HE feels ready to commit. Men are really very simple to work out. You make them chase you until such time as they want to commit to you. By then it’s safe to sleep with them. People might say that this is very old-fashioned, but it’s true. Human nature hasn’t changed even though the times have. People get scared if they experience strong emotions for someone else too soon. The only way to make a man willing to tolerate that feeling of being scared is to make his desire for you stronger than his fear of the deep emotions that he will feel for you when he does commit. Simple.
The old-fashioned way is always the best.
My remedy in this situation is not to spend any time talking to this woman anymore. She won’t be able to steal my light/energy if she doesn’t have access to it. I can see what is going to happen to her, and if I advise her of what I see she dismisses it. I’m wasting my time giving her my precious advice and energy.
Sure, as lightworkers we need to have compassion for people, but as lightworkers we work best in secret. We work best as Lighthouses that shine when we walk silently through the shopping centre, healing people as we go. We don’t work best by giving our time to people who are so dysfunctional and won’t help themselves that they just steal our light and deplete us of energy. Energy that can be used for creativity or for silent healing. People like this don’t deserve the gift of ourselves because they don’t do anything to help themselves.
So I woke up this morning and came to the conclusion that it is time to let this one go. My ol’ teacher always said that the best way to love people is to let them go and be as stupid as they want to be, and don’t argue with them. Love is letting people go, is what he always told us. I reckon that’s very good advice and I’m going to take it.
Thanks for reading,
Psychic Madeline Rose
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