3 Tips on How to Deal with Infidelity
So you’ve discovered that your partner is cheating. Now what do you do? No matter what, you’ll have to confront and deal with your cheating partner. Here are 3 Tips on How to Deal With Infidelity.
How to Deal With a Cheating Partner
There is nothing more exciting sometimes than being in love. The whole world seems to glow. At least, that’s true until you find out that your partner has been unfaithful.
Discovering a cheating partner can be a huge blow. It can be heartbreaking. Regardless of what happens later, part of your healing process is going to involve dealing with that infidelity.
Believe it or not, confronting your unfaithful partner is crucial to moving forward. Bringing out their deceit into the open doesn’t have to mean an argument. It should never result in violence. The process is designed to find out the reasons why he or she cheated.
What To Realise About A Cheating Partner
There are many reasons someone might cheat, just as there are many different types of infidelity. You may be able to get over it faster if your partner had a one night stand with someone. But not if they had a six-month relationship where they were in love with the other individual. Your healing process might depend on the type and the reason for the affair.
The most important thing to realise is that as painful as this discovery is, you’re not alone. About 50% of married people cheat. That figure is almost equal for men and women. This fact doesn’t make it hurt less, but you might find solace in knowing you’re not the only victim of cheating out there in the world.
What To Do Now
Once you’ve determined that you have a cheating partnership and have made the decision to confront your partner about his or her unfaithful behaviours, there are three things to keep in mind:
- Collect the evidence.
- Plan on where and when you will confront your partner.
- Try to stay calm.
Let’s take a closer look at each one.
Get Evidence Before Confronting a Cheating Partner
Evidence turns your suspicions into facts. Those facts will be harder for your partner to deny. You might have noticed money being spent in an unexpected way. Maybe your partner is suddenly spending a lot more time at the gym, but ignoring you. Or perhaps she or he suddenly gets home late from work and smells different.
Maybe a friend or loved one told you they saw your partner kissing someone else. Gather all of this evidence and write it down.
How do you want to confront your partner? You might feel it’s best to talk privately, or maybe you feel the conversation will be more fruitful over dinner. Planning ahead has the added benefit of keeping you from dropping the bomb of your confrontation at a random moment.
Choose a time when you and your partner are more likely to be calm and honest with one another
Decide what you hope the outcome will be. Are you simply seeking the truth? Do you plan to leave or stay with your partner if he or she admits to cheating? It is possible to work it out. In fact, 30–80% of couples stay together despite past infidelity.
Staying calm when facing a cheating partner is crucial. Yes, you are going to have strong emotions trying to take over. You might cry or get choked up.
Taking a few deep breaths while your partner answers you can help to keep you calm. Just make sure that you’re communicating clearly, and not simply insulting your partner. This might make you feel good. However, it’s not going to help the situation, as much as it might help your broken heart.
Thank you for reading,
Psychic Madeline Rose
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