In this article I’d like to explain the process of Growing Beyond where you find yourself emotionally and spiritually. It’s not a difficult process – in fact it’s quite easy. However, to achieve anything permanent when working with this process one has to be diligent and persistent. If you can do that, it’s just a matter of looking deep within yourself and noticing when your shadow traits reveal themselves in your everyday interactions with others. In order to be able to notice, one has to become the observer. One has to stop and think about why they reacted the way that they did, and simply become aware of themselves whenever they are acting in that manner.